Marrage is Forever!

Marriage is Forever!

Every person has their own opinion of marriages, if marriage is a good idea? How Robert Emery mention, people treats marriage as a business relationship. For example, Men support their wife financially. As for the women, can provide household and child care. Now and days in this generation, people are thinking with their hearts, and not with their money.

 In my own opinion, I believe men and women don’t want to commit until they have their life in order. The idea of having a career before marriage is to provide their future family with a good home and financially stable. Most cases people who does go to school and focus on their degree to receive more income, marriage is the last thing they think about. For example, the women who want to be ahead in their life take birth control. Amelia Miller research has shown women who have access to birth control have a higher chance of going to school and graduating from college than the women who doesn’t have access to birth control. Women can have the control when they can plan their future and start their family later. Amelia Miller also found out in her research, when a women delay on having a family in one year; their earnings increases by nine percent. That is why, when women do start their family and have a high income, marriages is less compelling to them.

 I’m one of out of few, who still believe in marriage and what it stands for. How Brad Wilcox said, “marriage conveys a sense of meaning, purpose, direction, and stability.” He believed the values of marriage, is important to intimate relationship. I strongly agree what Brad Wilcox is saying. I believe marriage is deeper than just having a beautiful dress, a wedding cake, or even having a ring in the finger. Love, love, love is the main point of being married and having an emotional connection with your significant other. Knowingly having security, loyalty, and faithfulness towards your partner, will bring you happiness. Emery said there is a psychological benefit behind a happy marriage: you’re less anxious, stressed, depressed, also your less likely get in trouble by the law, live longer, and less likely to drink and do drugs.

Other couples think differently, they rather be in a cohabitation relationship, then to commit into marriage. I believe it gives them an opportunity to leave anytime from their relationship when their relationship turns to the worse. Mostly they don’t want to get married to define their love. But other couples do want to get married but they live cohabitation together. The reasoning behind their decision is to learn more about each other before they make a decision if they are right for each other for marriage.

 When Natalie Rivera mention temporary marriages is allowed in Mexico in her essay. I disagree; marriage shouldn’t have a dead line. Marriage should be forever, Vows pacifically stated, “for better for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, love and cherish, till death us do part.” It means to be together until death parts you both and also  no matter what situation you are in, you should never give up on your marriage.